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Biblical healing from sexual addiction with hope and compassion.
With frank honesty, False Intimacy offers realistic direction to those whose lives or ministries have been impacted by sexual addiction while examining the roots behind these behaviors.
This compelling book examines different aspects of sexual addiction, including shame, purity,and forgiveness, while exploring one's true identity and God-given sexuality.
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My Story's The Same One...
Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction
by Dr. Harry Schaumburg
(Colorado Springs: NAVPRESS, 1997)
Addicted! Who – me? Addiction is not something that I was prepared to accept as a description of anything related to me. Addiction is something to describe someone else’s out-of-control life, isn’t it? … Enter False Intimacy, a book that is helping me to face long-standing issues in my life; issues which, for far too long, have been explained away.
False Intimacy, (Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction), by Dr. Harry Schaumburg is not light reading. The early chapters are very informative. Full of definitions and descriptions, causes and effects, along with numerous real-life illustrations, I found myself reading and re-reading more than a few passages. Initially, I reacted by disdaining the people and the behaviors described in these pages. I resisted identifying myself too closely with these actions and activities. When I am honest, however, I must admit that I experience many of the same urges, have yielded to many of the same temptations and, … “except for the name and a few other changes, when you talk about me, the story’s the same one.” 1 It is not a pretty picture!
Chapter Four is, by far, the most significant of the eleven chapters. As valuable and informative as the entire book is, chapter four carried the weight of help and of hope and of inspiration. On page 88, the author captured my attention when I read the following. “Sexually addictive behaviors seem boring when you are truly captivated by God’s purposes.” (emphasis mine) I was astounded by this suggestion! Dr. Schaumburg elaborated upon this statement with the following explanation.
“This point becomes clearer when we contrast the love of self-denial with the “love” of sexual fantasy. A sexual fantasy stems from a desire to gain more in a relationship than is possible. It’s an attempt to gorge ourselves with passion and move into a state free of any chance of disappointment. Simply put, we want to enter the Garden of Eden again.
But the very desire to know the bliss of the Garden here on earth is skewed by our obsession with self. In demanding the bliss of someone’s real or imagined warmth, we become consumed with ourselves, which destroys the very ecstasy we seek. There is no way out. We are locked in reality, always wanting and therefore always destroying what we want. The process is insane.”
In the margin, I have written myself a note, “read this paragraph until you understand.” It has required numerous readings.
The statement which I consider to contain the singularly most significant thought in the entire book is the one with which I conclude this review. “Until we become consumed with the love that desires to give for the sake of another’s good, all joy is an illusion.” -- Shalom
3/24/2011 6:48:49 PM