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This post is the voice of Paul E. Miller, author of A Praying Life: Connecting with God in a Distracting World<\/em>. Here, Paul shares a big reason that people find it hard to sustain their prayer life. And he paints a picture for how to help your prayer life thrive. <\/mark><\/p>\n\n\n

Our best times together as a family are at dinner. At home after a meal, we push our dishes aside and linger together over coffee or hot chocolate. We have no particular agenda; we simply enjoy one another. Listening, talking, and laughing. If you experience the same thing with good friends or with family, you know it is a little touch of heaven.<\/p>\n

When Jesus describes the intimacy he wants with us, he talks about joining us for dinner.<\/strong> \u201cBehold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me\u201d (Revelation 3:20).
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A praying life feels like our family mealtimes because prayer is all about relationship. It\u2019s intimate and hints at eternity.<\/strong> We don\u2019t think about communication or words but about whom we are talking with. Prayer is simply the medium through which we experience and connect to God.<\/p>\n

Oddly enough, many people struggle to learn how to pray because they are focusing on praying, not on God<\/strong>. Making prayer the center is like making conversation the center of a family mealtime. In prayer, focusing on the conversation is like trying to drive while looking at the windshield instead of through it. It freezes us, making us unsure of where to go. Conversation is only the vehicle through which we experience one another. Consequently, prayer is not the center of this book. Getting to know a person, God, is the center.<\/p>\n

The Praying Life . . . Is Interconnected with All of Life<\/h3>\n

Because prayer is all about relationship, we can\u2019t work on prayer as an isolated part of life. That would be like going to the gym and working out just your left arm. You\u2019d get a strong left arm, but it would look odd. Many people\u2019s frustrations with prayer come from working on prayer as a discipline in the abstract. <\/strong><\/p>\n

We don\u2019t learn to pray in isolation from the rest of our lives.<\/strong> For example, the more I love our youngest daughter, Emily, the more I pray for her. The reverse is true as well; the more I learn how to pray for her, the more I love her<\/strong>. Nor is faith isolated from prayer. The more my faith grows, the bolder my prayers get for my wife Jill. Then, the more my prayers for her are answered, the more my faith grows. Likewise, if I suffer, I learn how to pray. As I learn how to pray, I learn how to endure suffering.<\/strong> This intertwining applies to every aspect of the Christian life.<\/p>\n

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Since a praying life is interconnected with every part of our lives, learning to pray is almost identical to maturing over a lifetime. What does it feel like to grow up? It is a thousand feelings on a thousand different days. That is what learning to pray feels like. <\/strong><\/p>\n

So don\u2019t hunt for a feeling in prayer. Deep in our psyches we want an experience with God or an experience in prayer. Once we make that our quest, we lose God. You don\u2019t experience God; you get to know him. You submit to him. You enjoy him.<\/strong> He is, after all, a person.<\/p>\n

Consequently, a praying life isn\u2019t something you accomplish in a year. It is a journey of a lifetime.<\/strong> The same is true of learning how to love your spouse or a good friend. You never stop learning this side of heaven. There is far too much depth in people to be able to capture love easily. Likewise, there is far too much depth in God to capture prayer easily.<\/strong>
Things such as growing up and learning to love do have an overall feel, though. They are slow, steady, filled with ups and downs. Not spectacular but nevertheless real. There is not one magic bullet but a thousand pinpricks that draw us into a spiritual journey or pilgrimage. And every spiritual pilgrimage is a story. <\/p>\n

You’ve been reading Paul Miller’s A Praying Life<\/em>. Continue reading here!<\/a> A Praying Life: Connecting with God in a Distracting World<\/em> has sold over 500,000 copies.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Paul E. Miller<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Paul E. Miller<\/strong> is executive director of seeJesus, a global discipling mission that mentors through seminars, cohorts, and interactive Bible studies. He is the bestselling author of books including A Praying Life<\/em>, A Praying Church<\/em>, and Love Walked Among Us<\/em>. Paul lives in the Philadelphia area and has six children and fifteen grandchildren. Listen to the Seeing Jesus with Paul Miller podcast or learn more at seeJesus.net.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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