Heartfelt Purity
An I Don’t Get You Companion Study by Sherry Graf
Relationships can be confusing, and communication is a huge part of that confusion. As a young bride, I was surprised to discover how deeply my heart and sexuality were connected. I had no idea that physical purity and emotional purity were tied together—that purity in one area carries over to the next. Not understanding this led to missteps in my journey to maintain physical purity when I was single.
Emotional purity helps keep the level of intimacy in a relationship equal with the level of commitment. The more we attach emotionally to men, the more we will desire to attach physically. Maintaining emotional purity can be very difficult if we are used to being “filled up” by pouring out our heart to the men closest to us. Paula Rinehart, a well-respected Christian counselor and 
author says, “It is a strange irony that sometimes it is less vulnerable to be sexually involved—to be two strangers in the night—than it is to share your life and your heart with someone.”
As women we long to be known. Yet when we let others meet our emotional needs before God, they become an “idol” in our lives. We give into emotional impurity because it feels good and seems to meet our needs. Even in marriage when one partner looks to the other to meet all their emotional needs, an idol is born.
Living out our Christ-won purity starts with our hearts. Let’s look together at what God says about idols, His incredible love for us, and the inner workings of our hearts.
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