Engaging Our Anger Well
Most of us are angry at something. We are angry at our parents for what we didn’t receive as a child; we are angry at what we are not receiving from our partners as adults (or maybe we are angry …
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We All Want to Get Well Until We Know the Cost
Many times we want the benefits of work minus the suffering, or we want resurrection without crucifixion. In the story of the prodigal son, the judgmental elder brother did work hard, but relationally he was a coward; he dodged familial …
Degradation, the Hijacker of Anger
I am worried I am going to become a monster. It used to be that I could separate porn from relationships. Now I am not so sure. – Kevin I’m not ready to tell you everything, but it’s just so …
Perversion: the Hijacker of Lust
If I hadn’t been caught by my wife, I think I would have been arrested at some point because the porn I started looking at was getting really horrible. – Andy This article is the second of a three-part series excerpted …
Three Hijackers of Our Souls
No one ever wakes up and says, “I’m willing to resign my sexual life to perversion and degradation.” Most of us, however, find that the longer we remain in unwanted behavior, the more hijacked our experience with it becomes. When …
Following an Eccentric God
So, here’s my question: Why isn’t there a bit more crazy in Christianity these days? And I don’t mean crazy as in zany or juvenile (there’s plenty of that!). I mean crazy as in Picasso, Jim Henson, and Martha Graham. …
Make Your Marriage a Rewarding Relationship
We’re naturally self-centered, so a marriage can succeed only if we work at it. It’s always striking to me how many people approach marriage thinking that if they simply do what comes naturally, everything will work out. That’s not true, …
I’ve Decided Not to Grow Up
I was having a talk with my three-week-old son the other day. I asked him, “How’s life going?” He smiled and said, “Well Dad, I’ve been thinking. I’m really enjoying my life now. I can sleep as long as I …
At Home With God
God invites us to live with him—an invitation David accepted seriously, as he expressed in Psalm Twenty-seven. Let’s focus particularly on verse four: One thing I ask from the Lord, this only do I seek: that I may dwell in the …
Simba, Stop Wandering and Get Dangerous
Simba is a “lost” lion. If you haven’t seen the Disney film about a lion who has lost track of who he really is, go find it, stream it, download it, whatever—and watch it. Simba is a lion cub, the …